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Chitter Chatter the stuff we tell ourselves?


We all have an internal voice, now, it can be kind and considerate, or it can be quite cruel and really affect our confidence. Often, we aren't even aware of it consciously as it natters away in the background, BUT our unconscious mind is listening, and just what is it we are telling ourselves?

''I don't belong here, I'm not good enough''

You would be amazed how many people you would view as successful have this wee voice in their head doubting their success and wondering when the tap on the shoulder will come and they will hear ''you don't belong here, we made a mistake''

'' You're useless, good for nothing'' 

Sadly sometimes people have been cruel to us, and the echo of their cruelty still resonates in our head, to a point we pick it up and start being cruel to ourselves. Words can hurt as much as physical blows, choose carefully what you say to yourself, as you are listening….

''If only I had said this…'' 

How many times do we find ourselves in situations where someone has said something to us which has left us feeling small or hurt, then later, once the situation has passed we have this great idea of what we should have said or done, and this goes round and round in our head, often resulting in more self-criticism

'Oh, I didn't do that today''

How often before falling asleep do we congratulate ourselves on what we have achieved that day? Or, do we find ourselves focusing on what we didn't do?

Truth is, there is rarely enough time to do all the things we want or need to do, so do we focus on what we did, or what we still need to do. 

Congratulating yourself on a job well done can make you feel more motivated for the jobs still to be done.

'Things would be better if…..'' when we decide that certain conditions need to be in place for things to be better, sometimes, it can be a long time before these conditions are in place, if ever. 

How often do we have an internal chatter about what we don't like, aren't happy with? 

Does this motivate or inspire? 

How much better could this be if we instead had an internal chat about what we appreciated about life. 

Learning to appreciate the simple things can do a lot to improve your happiness quotient.

This wee flier gives some tips on developing a kinder inner voice. This is general advice which may be helpful for you to consider in being kinder to yourself. Sometimes things happen in our lives which require more formal support e.g. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).

This is a wee tip for wellness blog, not a replacement for professional advice.

There is an online self-help CBT resource Moodgym, this costs $39(AUD) (Roughly £22) for 1 year's access. Here is a review of MoodGym for more information. It may be there are local mental health teams in your area offering free CBT courses, ask your local health providers for details.

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