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Everyone has the right to shed tears


Cry whenever you need to. It doesn’t need to be a traumatic event like the loss of a loved one, if something has you feeling you could cry………..cry.

 Learning to have compassion for yourself, makes it easier and less exhausting to care and have compassion for others.

Compassion is more than putting ourselves in another’s place and feeling their pain. Compassion is about helping alleviate or reduce the suffering of someone else. We plan to do future pieces on compassion for others, but for now, we want to think about compassion for the self.

When we think of compassion for others, we need to consider that we see they are suffering. Having compassion for ourselves, we need to acknowledge we are in pain.

Once we accept we are suffering, if we use compassion towards ourselves, we will want to do something to help alleviate or reduce that suffering and pain.

To offer ourselves kindness and understanding, not to judge or criticise or say how it should be, just to accept a part of us is sad and another part of us wants to help.

You don’t need to have a stiff upper lip, put on a brave face, be the one who keeps it together for everyone else. Often men find it hard to show they are suffering as they feel they need to be strong for others.

This can often be the case when a new baby arrives, men it is now shown can suffer a form of post-natal depression too, but it’s often unrecognised, and even if it is, men can find it hard to talk about it as they want to be strong for their partner. Having compassion for yourself means you can admit, this is a tough time just now and its upsetting me, then ask ourselves the question ‘what can I do to comfort and care for myself right at this moment?

We have put together a wee download on why its good to cry.

Crying not only helps release toxins, it gives us an opportunity to connect with our feelings of sadness, so we can move through them.

Please remember, this piece is for promoting self-care. If you are struggling just now with feelings of sadness and suffering this alone may not be enough and you may need to speak to your GP or other health care provider about support near you.

Part of the purpose of this wee tip sheet is to reassure, we all get sad, we all suffer sometimes, and I have yet to meet a person who has never shed a tear. I have also met people who want to cry but find it hard. We hope this wee information sheet is helpful and will support you move on to better times

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