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Time for something new and remember, rarely anyone gets it right first time

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"I haven't failed -- I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." Thomas Edison Inventor of the Light Bulb

We may have heard the term 'Every Day is a School day', basically meaning, every day is a chance to learn something new. However, not everyone has positive memories of school so this phrase rather than inspiring us to try something different has us running in the opposite direction with memories of…… 

THE RED PEN! Is anyone not sure about the red pen? It's when we see something written in red and immediately our brain thinks……….Mistake! 

You know for some people an A+ written with red ink can still produce this feeling of being unsettled. Some may argue as the colour red can be seen as angry or confrontational. Of course, it could be argued, doesn't matter what colour of pen is used, we don't like being reminded we have made a mistake, but then if we don't know we made a mistake how do we learn to correct it?

The point here is, if from an early age we worry about our learning being judged and found wanting, then as an adult we may unconsciously steer away from other learning opportunities for fear we fail, and most people, even people who may be perceived as a successful, fear failure, it just maybe they don't let their fear get in the road of trying again.

There can be lots of reasons for us fearing failure, ranging from perhaps unkind words when we were children, or, trying something and it didn't work out and we were embarrassed, or, not wanting to let people down and so much more.

However, if we are to learn we will fail. If we didn't mean we knew it all so didn't need to learn it in the first place! Maybe what we need to do is reframe how we approach learning and think about failing and realise NO ONE GETS IT RIGHT FIRST TIME OR ALL THE TIME! Unless of course, they never try anything new ever! Life is full of opportunities to learn something new and yes embarking on learning does involve risk, however, we need to remember the reward of achieving what we set out to learn. 

This can be from baking bread to going back to education to retraining for a new job to trying a new hobby, to finding out about how to self-manage a long-term health condition and so much more.

This wee piece is wellbeing promotion, not mental ill-health intervention. If you are struggling with any mental illness at present which heightens your distress at fear of failing, then speak to a health professional and maybe come back to this at a later date.

It is so important we are kind to ourselves when we maybe don't get it right first time and seek to learn from the experience and not give up. If we have a trusted critical friend or teacher who offers feedback on why maybe it didn't go as planned, see this as support, not criticism. 

"It is the supreme art of the teacher to awaken joy in creative expression and knowledge." Albert Einstein

Remember, regret can have a greater impact on us than failure, regret we didn't achieve our goal as we gave up. 

We are in a strange new world since COVID19 and we are all needing to learn new ways of being in the world, which is good for us, our family, community, and country's wellbeing. We may even find we need to explore new career opportunities and find new ways to support our children. 

Learning offers us the chance to acquire so many new tools which we can use in our lives, don't let the fear of failure get in the road of your success. Be inspired to try something new today. 

These wee affirmation cards may be helpful. Close your eyes and move through the cards, pick one at random and think what it is saying to you, if this doesn't say much, pick another, use as often as you like.

Remember, you matter, and people care that's why at the moment across the world, many scientists are searching for a cure, a vaccine for COVID19. The fact they don't have one yet, means their efforts to date have failed, so far. They aren't giving up; they will keep looking until they do find it. New cures for disease are created because scientists weren't afraid to try something new and didn't give up when they didn't get it right the first time. 

Remember, rarely do any of us get it right first time.- to get to where we want to be is hard work, but that work is worth the effort if it matters to you


"Genius is 1 percent inspiration and 99 percent perspiration." 

Thomas Edison
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