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What do we mean by resilience?

The definition of resilience is as follows:

1: The capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress.

2: An ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.''

I think most of us can identify with both those definitions? Sometimes the pressures which we feel we are under make us feel we have the weight of the world on our shoulders, which is forcing us to our knees. 

Other times, we are faced with situations we know we either need to find a way to work through or, the pain or fear will overwhelm us.

COPEScotland's Message to the world, in our video section, was the product of many people sharing their ideas, voices and skills for making the video! 

The aim of it was to share, life sometimes happens and its sore and there is no escaping it.

The price we pay sometimes for the joy of love is the pain we can experience when the person we love is taken from us.

But, if we decided I will never love so I don't ever get hurt, we deny ourselves so much joy. Rather than becoming overwhelmed by focusing on loss and pain, we accept it can happen and look at how we can reduce its impact, find ways to cope until the pain has passed, or if this situation has no easy resolution to find ways to find Joy even in a moment.

We can learn to be more resilient. Some things are very practical, like, get enough sleep. Easier said than done if you find it hard to sleep, which is why we offered the wee blog on getting a better night's sleep.

Others are around giving yourself permission like 'Its Okay to cry' which is why we offered the wee blog sharing its okay to cry, sometimes releasing our pain through our tears can help us to move on.

Recognising you are crying a lot can be a trigger for you to decide, its time to go and talk to someone about my pain, as you don't need to suffer alone.

Sometimes we find ourselves in stressful situations and we need to find a way through them, this is why we offered the wee blog on Tips to Manage stress. Sometimes we beat ourselves up by using an unkind voice, which is why we offered the wee blog on using a kinder inner voice.

COPEScotland's new website only came on stream April 2018, however, we aim for it to be a place which offers free tips and information on little changes which can make a big difference to your well being. Tips for building resilience to life stressors and challenges is core to all we do.

We recognise being led by the voices of lived experience is where exciting new ideas can be born, so please, take a moment and share in the comments section what else you would like to see on our site, we cannot always do what everyone asks, but we do promise to try.

We received feedback on offering something around post-natal depression in men, watch this space as we are currently working on a whole section on men's well-being. It is recognised, sometimes men can find it harder to talk about their mental health challenges. In researching our new materials we found this resource so wanted to share as it's a site specifically for men.

No one service, or website, or agency has all the answers, its when we work together learning and sharing with each other something transformational can happen, and this helps build resilience for us all.

'Brothers in Arms is about and on behalf of men. We will use men's peers, their voices and interests to reach them.

We want to work with men so that they can feel respect and be comfortable with the message and mission we want to get across, that there is a cultural barrier preventing men from seeking help because they are expected to be in control at all times, and failure to be seen as such feels like a weakness and a loss of masculinity.

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