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Why for many feeling close to someone matters?


First, we need to recognise some people really enjoy their own company and for them, being close to others isn't a huge priority. We also need to recognise there can be health challenges and conditions which can impact on our relationships and how close we feel to others. 

This wee piece and the tips are for self-management and do not replace professional advice. If you feel so alone, you are thinking of suicide please speak to someone. The Samaritans are there 24/7 365 Tel 116 123. There may be other reasons impacting on your ability to feel close to someone, speak to your GP or other health care providers about support near you. we also share resources in the whit's happening magazines on the site, which may be helpful.

For most people, that feeling of being close to at least one person matters. Research suggests people with a social support network experiences improved health and wellbeing and when life does present a challenge may suffer less, as they have others to help and who they feel care about them.

Sometimes we don't know how to get close to someone, it maybe we have been in the same relationships for a number of years and then for various reasons those people drift out of our lives and finding new people to be close can feel daunting.

The COVID-19 pandemic and social distancing and restrictions have played a significant part in keeping us apart from people we care about, and while we may be able to phone, or zoom, missing that contact face to face where you can relax with each other, it is only natural will cause us some mixed feelings.

These wee tips on how to feel closer do not replace professional advice but may offer some ideas if feeling closer to someone matters to you. The affirmation postcard offers you an opportunity if you want to make a wee promise to yourself of some action you will take.

Sometimes things happen in relationships and people grow apart, it may be professional help is needed to explore how what is lost can be regained, if both parties want this, it may be finding ways to talk to each other and understand the other's point of view may be needed. Relationships require effort and understanding from each party to flourish. However, being close to someone and knowing someone feels the same closeness from you can help us when life is challenging as well as celebrate when life offers reasons to smile.

 "When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change"

Thich Nhat Hanh
Tips for living mindfully.
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